I rejected her even though i like her. She asked me out and I told her I had no interest.

I rejected her even though i like her Long story short, she was over at my house uninvited doing her homework and I was sitting in my living room ignoring her, angry and bitter, because I thought she didn't want me to bother her. I take a picture with every single one of them, I sign Why are you hitting on her even though you heard from her colleague (and then her) that she is in a relationship? In the end she rejected the advance to go on a date out of loyalty to her bf SHE IS THE ONE who continues to flirt with me. Bad move confessing. But I developed really strong feelings for her. We both agreed we wanna get to know each other more. However, she does the complete opposite. " You are attractive though. The "telling her why I like Ok firs srry for bad grammar English it's not my first language. I later developed feelings for her, and finally worked up the courage to ask her out. If I could take my reaction back, I 100% would. Liked feeling like she was a player or whatever. The next day her friends told me she is crying and really not fine. Though of course it's difficult to say what impression an almost certainly dysfunctional relationship would have left on 13 year old me. I talk to her like I do with everyone, I don't touch her. Ask things you know for a fact you'll get rejected on. I genuinely wish her all the best, even if we'll likely never talk again. Like every time i wanted to reply saying to stop the lies, I was down to give her the relationship that she wanted. I think she is acknowledging her part in this though. Or waiting till I'm distracted, then running away. When it was dismissed she immediately hid her face when she saw me and kind of hid behind her friends, even though I wasn’t even looking in her direction. Seeing her like this, Yuzu and I exchange a glance and decide—every day, we’ll come here. Go up to her face to face and tell her what you just said. I once found the perfect girl, and she rejected me. The worst case scenario for me is she gets really weirded out by me telling her and avoids me at all costs. I rejected her that moment and told her, “sorry I thought you were a cis woman. "can I get this gas for free?" "I like my food a certain way, can I go behind the counter and cook my own meal?" 10 votes, 37 comments. this annoying cycle can be potentially She reached out to me online, there were some things about her that seemed interesting, but I got a negative vibe about her from the beginning; she seemed confrontational and even a bit hostile. But she had her arm cross my, she hold upper arm like that. Not necessarily girls, but anything. This is actually a good thing. We still stayed best friends but, she gave up on us being lovers, again even though I was willing to keep trying. I miss her so fucking much, crying everyday, feeling like an idiot with my meaningless life. I feel like you are my soulmate. I really really LOVE the angst of his regret when he realizes that he's hurt her and his regret in turning her down, so bonus points if his initial rejection is even kind of rude or genuinely hurtful. My TA is cool, but I only like her in the sense that she's got the same interests as me. I'm sure you'll find another one and things will work out for you, hopefully. I have to live with this regret forever. Reply reply Honestly, make it a game say something like "you rejected me 2 years ago, if you want me now you gotta work for it" in my opinion she needs to prove to you At some point, we started to be really close and when we were not studying or working, we were always talking on the phone. Please make sure you read our rules here. I agree it's too soon. I like him a lot, but I just have no idea how to The most likely in my opinion is that even though she betrayed you, you're still not completely over her, so since you now rejected her while still having feelings for her, you feel bad about it. So, one day when a mutual friend organised a party, I decided to tell her I had a crush on her and rejected me. She confessed through are friends and I rejected her saying I dont know her that well, but that I really like her company and I really wanna get to know her. He’s now gone though and I realized that I messed up. I wouldn’t block her because it could show bitterness also it shows mental stability when you get rejected but are OK with it. Now your too hooked into one woman that has rejected you. I'll be cognizant of all what you mentioned though :) think about it like this: you did something really brave, and even though it didn’t work out like you thought it would, this is something that’s only going to make you stronger in the long run. Not because you did anything evil or bad but because you probably did hurt her feelings. I said my quick goodbye and left. Women know when you like them and When you should tell her you like her. If you want to tell a girl you like her without getting rejected, compliment her and go out of your way to see her. And he so sweetly talked to me about things. " You rejected her, and she was stunned that her charms did not work on you, since they work on everyone. During lunch, I asked if I could sit with them. I feel like a creep. Depending on the guy, you might have blown it already though. Responding will just give her the idea that if she acts up enough, you'll pay attention to her. i guess some things just arent meant to be. I feel she may hate me for it the next time I see her. But then you find she’s introverted, smart and ambitious. She rejected me a couple of times and friend-zoned me before she finally agreed to date with me. I was heads over heels for this one girl during the first 3 years of my high school who didn't want me and rejected me like 2-3 times. I thought of her my whole summer break, everywhere I go, every couple I see, reminds me of her. The last 2 months, I think I rejected her as much as she did me. let yourself be sad for a little while, but don’t stress about it too much, the right person for you is out there somewhere! And even though I spent a lot of time being single, it really took me a lot of time to heal. The world needs more people like her. Though I didn't reject her because I didn't like her. On a side note, the coffee, cake, and coffee jelly that the owner made himself were all incredibly delicious. Since then though, I've been thinking about you and want to Anyways I can’t be mad at her for not wanting one nor can I be mad at her for rejecting me. I've felt rejected by partners, but it's hard for me to feel that invested in someone right at the beginning. I met Daniel in freshman year, he was in my class, back then, my best friend (Samantha) was friends with Daniel, so she introduced him to me, at first I was being a bad person to him, always talked down to him, but eventually I warmed up to him, freshman year was really one of the best in Shit like saying yes, then actually rejecting me later via text because I'm safely far away. Remember: Pinky up! As for advice, even though you might not want it, as others have said: Dressing well will make a difference. Damn, I thought the headline said "I was rejected by the girl I like based on books. "I Tell if a Girl Likes You Even Though She Already Has a Boyfriend. Maybe she just got dumped, maybe she is getting back at her ex. I feel like I need to do this with someone now, she made me feel like no one's ever done and I've liked her the most, but she's now feeling like she doesn't want to take time to talk to me or see me anymore and it sucks, she won't end it with me and tells me she misses me and does want to talk and see me but she's busy and I don't know if I can take it Though I have to admit that self-interest also factors into this; had I been with her this would have jumpstarted my relationship experience quite a few years earlier, something that would benefitted me greatly. Even though like I said, her response was extremely nice and respectful and I believe she meant it when she said we'll stay friends, I just feel like I won't be positive things will be ok between us until I see her againwhich isn't for 3 months. I texted her not to contact me anymore and she agreed. And I told him. Even though him and I weren't on good terms (or if I knew she had a boyfriend at all), I'm not good with being part of He literally shows no interest in hanging out with me but all of my friends encourage me to continue trying even though I feel like giving up. Home > Girl's Behavior > Questions > I rejected a sweet girl Like i dont know what i could have done more, seriously all i ever wanted is to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I’m saying even though 18 year olds are Well this was in my senior year of high school, and my friend essentially kicked my ass until i went up to her and dragged her into the hallway. Short story: I met this girl in one of my classes, we quickly became friends. She told me her attachment styles was "dismissive avoidant" which very much explained the vibe I was feeling, but I thought I'd give it a chance and at This was the first time i had the guts to ask a girl out and somehow even though she rejected me, it made me more confident in myself. That's really bad. I never asked her to leave him for me but she was unsure and was treating me like "I will explain you the whole thing" then 5 minutes later "well no, in the end I'm gonna try to stay with him" kinda stuff. I went and talked to her about it. Cause that’ll make her think she ain’t all that you don’t really need her. But now it's like he's conflicting himself. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable, doesn't enjoy being around him, wants a connection or maybe she doesn't find him attractive. Ok so a few months back my friend, let’s call him Justin admitted he really liked me. Don't worry about it, you did the right thing and you'll eventually find a girl that won't be a cheating bitch and that will actually respect you. Dont approach her again she already rejected you if she wants you she will come to Tbf bro, if you really want it then there is a way back. Colder. She did not say they are not having any sex or specified how long they have gone w/o sex. If you give enough hints as to how you’re feeling, she’ll be better prepared for when you tell her you like her. Even Though I was Rejected by The Two Most Beautiful Girls in My Year, Somehow It seems like They Missed Me › Compared to Aira Yuzu’s demeanor, I was feeling a sense of light despair thinking about what it would be like when I returned to the classroom. Not much sex is a relative term. i hoped and prayed everyday that she will be mine but it never happened i literally did anything i can for her and put her before myself but it never worked out. I wanted to wait little more before I confessed, but I came to knew she liked another guy though he doesn't exactly reciprocate her feelings. "We all thought you liked Bob (or whatever) so I was caught off guard. In the meantime, I'm also afraid that the friendship might turns awkward if I confess. There are times, especially after hanging out together, when it physically hurts I stared quite often at her bc I was curious to see how she would take it and if it would be awkward right after even tho I was aware, but it wasn't and she was flattered, I do not really like her that much but I used to, I rejected her for reasons that I do It's crazy how your mentality switches. It just makes me feel like shit every time this happens. She doesn't even know him any more, so she certainly doesn't love or even like him. That’s what sets her apart from all of the other attractive women. Edit (29th of April 2023): Next day I now feel guilt and shame about asking her out, as if I’ve just betrayed our friendship, betrayed her trust and love she showed me. true. But I kept begging her until she said yes. Sometimes we run to each other in the hallway, she has her head down and doesn't look at me or say hi either. I am trying to avoid her so I can move on, and recover from this heartbreak. I've been thinking of how to ask her out, maybe telling her that I like her even though we don't really know each other (we had math class for 4 months) and that I would like to go out with her and get to know her, and before she says either yes or no, tell her to take some time if she needs to in case she feels like all of this is happening Right now, look at it like you are doing the best thing for her. Does she think I'm looking at her? Does she like me? TL;DR: Girl I like keeps staring at me in class when she thinks I'm not looking, she does even though she rejected me months back. It just took an awakening I couldn't control. Make she was just rejected, and now is looking for male validation. However she was dating my ex best friend at the time. Reply reply OC74859 • I agree with you both that he does still like her, but respects her too much to ask her out again. Even blocked and removed her from every social platform. I kind of figured a while back, but I liked another a guy so I rejected him. I agree with another post on here, though. Furthermore, it places a heavy burden on her to But then I blanked her last messages before I went to bed, left her on read, (so she should feel like she did her duty and everything's normal so she can shut up now), Saturday morning, she messages me "You are going to love bitten season 2", as if she wants my attention. Probably because I rejected her and she recognized my problems. After she straightened my hair I felt better because I looked more like the girls who had called me ugly. She then changed her mind and asked me on a second date less than a week later. She broke it off but didn't really give me a fair reason why, just something like "I'm not feeling a big spark". I was emotionally drained and tired. Now you are a challenge. It About 5 days ago I was rejected by my crush after I foolishly told her I liked her way too early. ) I'd like to meet her and talk to her in person because I think it would be different but I don't want to stalk her and drive to her house, she lives a 20 minute drive away from me, and I don't want to act desperate, but I've really been feeling bad all these days. She then gets angry with me and accuses me of lying to her. She mentioned having an 18 month old- which will definitely affect a person’s libido. I haven't spoken to her since then, which was around 3-4 weeks ago, but ever since then I feel this overwhelming sense of pain, shame and envy every time I even see her name on snapchat like when she posts something. . I was rejected by a friend too, and even though I want to stay friends with her, it is difficult. i think she's a human being who was unsure of the situation but has now gathered enough information that she can feel comfortable making a more informed choice. the situation is stupid tbh. Look, I support LGBTQ+ rights and do think they deserve a space in women’s common areas (if they reasonably pass, else it can And she aired me (I AM FUCKING 17 AND SENDING SHIT LIKE THIS WTFFFFF I LITERALLY WINCED WHEN TYPING THIS OUT AGAIN). Even though we have been apart for so long. A co-worker asked me out and I rejected her. She went ahead with her parents proposal and met that guy. Because from experience he can lead to some sleepless nights a head. She rejected me, and as a result I decided, for my own sake, to cut off contact with her. Turned out she was an amazing girlfriend and became the wife of our other friend. Or allowing her friends to drag her away so she doesn't actually have to say "no". By the time you meet her, you will have even more to offer, even though you are a catch already. Her boyfriend noticed something was up, she admitted but they stayed together. Even if he still has feelings, he’s got to be wary. Nobody believing her and you remaining indifferent is your best shot at getting her to move onand if she doesn't, that's her loss. I understand that baggy clothes are more comfortable (I'm wearing a huge Didn't you find her attractive at first, thus you rejected her? There was this girl from our circle of friends who really liked me or so she said, but I rejected her coz she really isn't my type though she wasn't ugly just average. If they don't feel the same way, it's not the end of the world. Which although dissapointing for me, I respect that. 5K votes, 462 comments. I do enjoy talking to her and everything but it kinda drives me crazy not being able to actually be with her. Let her be. Lesson learned though. To be honest I read your replies here you still don't get it do you you hurt her by rejecting her you made her feel worthless just because she's not a virgin you rejected her just because she liked you. The answer is almost always no She just wanted to feel chased. Just because she rejected you on date three does not mean there is not another woman who is just like her. I was so upset, but after a year or so, I found another girl, who was even more perfect. Thank you! I have been still struggling a little in the last few days. Now I liked this girl for a wile and I started to give her gifts like chocolate flowers things like that now when I gaved her the things she would never say thank you she would just get it and say nothing then she would block me on social media so I asked her out and she rejected me bcs I am ugly . To clarify me (Cera) and my best friend (Daniel) are both 20, I just wanted to clear that up. What you can do is talk to other girls to make her jealous and try hurt her ego. i don’t know how to feel. I ended it because I thought he wasn't into me even though he agreed to a second date. Well, she rejected me too lol. The fear is always worse in your head. Some of them have lists that describe you. Look, I support LGBTQ+ rights and do think they deserve a space in women’s common areas (if they reasonably pass, else it can I went to the library to keep myself focused knowing to still show love to her, myself and everyone around me. You voicing that could really hurt, especially if it’s something she’s already working on. We never took it past work because she doesn’t date co-workers but I could tell she liked me and she even told me that I get her hot and bothered and she even used to blush red whenever I would come talk to her. After our one date, she said she'd decided to take a break from dating before we even started talking (kinda shitty of her to go through with the date in that case, to be honest). This actually happened to me a couple of years ago, i had this huge crush on a close friend during the whole school year and once summer came about i told her about it and she plain ass rejected me I honestly didn’t have any hard feelings for her after that but I definitely didn’t wanna stay friends with her cause it kinda hurt, anyways a year later she started talking to me again and Last time we worked I completely ignored her and I felt like an asshole. I mean, too late, but don't fucking EVER do that again. Anyway, the point is there's no one perfect girl only. I dealt with breakup before, even my 4 yr relationship closure did not hit my that hard. Sometimes he would touch me (like hold my wrist, touch my arm) for no reason. I Rejected Her and She Disappeared: What to Do? If a girl disappears after you reject her, it's because she doesn't want to be in your friendzone. However, I DID care about our friendship, and I did everything I could to remain friends with her, even when she got a boyfriend. He didn't even talk to her, he just smiled at her. my first and last "girlfriend" was around three years ago (Feb 2019) when i was 19 where i got very excited about it and all, a week later i discover im a rebound and she still got feelings for her ex, that basically threw me in a pit of depression and self doubt, after a couple of months pf trying and dating and obsessing over Yes. Puts pressure on them (which you just saw the result ofshe's not even sure how to process it, but for sure isn't dying to be your girlfriend). I’m still good friends with a girl I had a crush on in high school. One of them, chosen by wild chance, will run into you. I mean treat her as an individual now rather than making up some fantasy about her current life. I was really hurt, but I understood why she would avoid me. I said to her that she should hold my hand, and she said it's too much to her rn. She responds to my texts in like 0. r/Crushes is a safe place for people to talk about their crushes and ask for advice. what? I’m trying to give perspective here. She is sick, but her parents are in denial. You like her. He even leaves me on read whenever I send him a meme or something and he never did this before. The OP should gather whether he has become a backup plan. Anyway, I feel like if I had just asked her out like a normal person, things would have turned out a little better. Every time I see her close with another guy it bothers me, even though it's non of my business and she can do what she likes. Well even though she rejected me with the co-worker’s dilemma I would continue to try to talk her into a real date outside of work The problem is, even though I enjoy our friendship, it's still hurts to know that that's all there's going to be between us. So a couple of nights ago I came clean and asked her out on a date, I honestly thought she'd say yes, we clicked really well, and people already thought we were dating just because of I rejected her that moment and told her, “sorry I thought you were a cis woman. I told her I didnt want that and deleted her contact. I knew that was coming. I was having a really rough day and ended up telling her, even though I dont I took 3 days, emailed her back and told her I didn't see her like that. Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. I let her down gently, but she didn’t take it well. She's barely spoken to this man for years. He was previously like just a cute guy who I like and is funny but now, he is also so sweet. I met my wife out dancing at the height of my impermeability to getting rejected. 2 Chapter 20. She confessed her feelings to me this January, and I didn't know how to react and rejected her. It's hard to say, because I've never really been in a situation where I liked someone a lot and got rejected romantically at like the start. In fact, there is a woman out there that has all the traits you liked about her and who you will actually like a hell of a i mean telling her that her bad choices in life are an upturn might be good and bad at the same time. I'm ok with getting rejected and I would understand why he would do so. So, she may like you and things may be going very well, but she may just be too overwhelmed at the moment to consider you as a possible romantic partner. It's like when you are about to give a public speaking, you have It’s a numbers game. I feel like I missed great opportunity and that I will never know if we could have a happy life. However, she clearly avoids me. I might be wrong but I’m trying to give you a shortcut in figuring this out. Or telling me to wait there, she'll be right back. I've not tried to persuade her or change her mind. You not asking your crush out will always leave a Yeah he has made himself vulnerable to OP twice and has been rejected. Welcome to r/relationship_advice. I rejected a sweet girl that was into me because I though I'm to "crude" for her. Tough shit for her, you're not obligated to like her back. Ask for 100 numbers, get 5 maybe. someone said that's her loss, but like I said: I wouldn't say that's her loss. But it was so cute. Does she like me? My crush rejected me, but now she keeps staring at me. I wish more people were like this when they told a friend their feelings. She's doing the exact thing any guy should do when turned down Hi guys, about half a year ago, a girl confessed her feeling toward me and I rejected her, now I can’t stop thinking about her and I start to realize that I really like her. Being with her and talking to her is really nice and I've just wanted to express that, even though I've accepted she doesn't feel the same way. And you apologize for hurting her feelings in the past. That’s why I like her. But now that you mentioned it, maybe there's no harm in having a relationship without having to have a friendship with that person first. We didn't talk for 2 weeks (not even for work, as she was working off-site). Jk. EDIT: Okay, I'm man enough to admit that I rejected her pretty much out of spite and revenge, even though this probably won't help my case Archived post. One night she was a bit tipsy and made a move on me. What made it worse were rumors that went around that I had basically assaulted her, even though that's not what she accused me of. 3. Rinse and repeat. So I wanted to make sure to let her know I am interested in her ASAP before I go even deeper into this. Determine if she is interested. I told him I like him over text. you even recognize her position as being a So I told her how I felt about her 5 days ago. Next week, or next month, or next year, or next decade. When it comes to actual romantic interests though- right now I'm on a no-women kick that ties into a set of bad relationships. thepoptingz on October 22, 2024: "Elvira reveals that Ariana Grande rejected taking a photo with her even though she brought friends and family backstage to Elvira’s show for photos: “She came and she brought 20 guests she comes backstage and she asks if I can take pictures with all of her friends and relatives she brought. I know someone who is obsessed with a guy. The best advise is to just put her out of your So how did you rejected her, she told you she had feelings for you? Why don't you call her? She's probably posted a question saying, "I keep telling this guy to call me and he I've sort of rejected someone I liked before but it was more like me purposely not picking up on her hints of wanting me to ask her out. I also realize there are other explanations for her behavior, but they’re tough to imagine given all the details. Went to his room and called me. She has major trust issues Initially she refused to do it because I was too young. At the end of the day she wasn't looking at me in the same way she did before, behaved completely different. She was still a great friend to me, even when I was acting like that, though. Also love seeing her slowly realize that he's fallen completely in love with her. She didn't try to talk to me after that. Now she doesn't even glace at me when passing me on street. Do I talk to her and ask her if we should start over from scratch, do I tell her to move on from me and find someone new She doesn't really like him though. The concept is simple, go out of your way to get rejected at least 3 times daily. I just want to talk to you. Guys if a girl rejected you and you still liked her would you ask her out again or would you go out with her if she changed her mind about you? (or would your pride be too hurt) It could make her feel stupid. I was helping her with her issue with having to fly back due to COVID (Only I knew about it). Then, I promise, as time goes onyou will either meet somebody else or learn to enjoy your life on your own. Even after getting rejected he try to stay around I feel for him , but first you have to get his trust back , and show to him that you like him and that will be your time to win him over , be prepared since you don't know if he is seeing someone , and have patience , everything he did to you you now will have to do whit him . We couldn't meet immediately due to exigent circumstances immediately after she was back. Same, I rejected someone for a whole year lol I HAVE THE BIGGEST CRUSH ON HIM 🙃 You’re trying Still kind of cautious though, I don't want to get some false hope that everything will improve just from this one thing. Check "Community Info" in the top right corner if you're using the app, or use the old version of reddit by typing "old" in place of "www" into the URL and look at the top of the sidebar if you're on desktop. She told me that “she doesn’t want a relationship if that’s what I was looking for?” And I told her if she likes anyone else and I told her who does she like? This one is a saga: June 2017 - come onto her in a club, get rejected, a classic “we’re too good friends” September 2017 - she seems a little more interested, asks me if I’m talking to any other girls at the moment, things I looking up I didn't ask why it would not work and said I needed some time to sort my feelings as I didn't want the friendship to end. I think Ken still likes me. 5 seconds, invites me over to her place at odd hours, and we flirt like crazy. She told me he loved me, wrote love letters to me and hugged me! (even though I didn't like her) Now I have never been asked out or rejected someone so, I was nervous and guilty for what I was about to do I rejected her in front of everyone and it felt AMAZING she was very mad at me and actually wanted to spend time with me on Valentine's day. They lost touch and met again on Saturday and met again today. I taught myself to look at the rejections as progress toward the 1/100. He said he will talk to me in 5 mins. (If she starts telling more threatening or damaging lies, though, or otherwise escalates her behavior, start looking into how to protect yourself. Tell her You were really rooting for her to have things work out with someone she really liked. She told me she loved me as a friend but not into me like that since she didn’t want to get in a relationship at the time so even though my heart was broken I moved on. Hypothetical scenario. As to why, I was insecure and felt like I wasn't good 7 Genuine Reasons why she rejected you even though she likes you Before we talk about what you should do and what your best steps are moving forward, let’s cover some reasons why she rejected you so that we Never in my case although I've been on the receiving end of that with my wife. Even though I would respect you and treat you as a woman, I am not comfortable seeing you anymore” She told me I was transphobic. We don't know her wants in a relationship. One night she IMed me that she liked me and would be open to dating. Good for you for being honest with your friend and good for her to be honest back. Popular advice says to compliment a girl if you like her to let her know. It was affecting her health since she had IBD and her diet was causing it to get worse and worse, plus She was cute and nice, and that would make me fantasize about her even though I could still be OK with her just staying as friends, and we would hang out a lot together doing a lot of stuff platonically, even if being a horny guy, there were definitely thoughts of wanting more and doing more throughout our times together in college. Asking her out seems like strange timing right now. For me, I even hate it when people see me and say “you look great, keep it up!” Because it makes me feel like I need to work even harder to ensure I stay on track. A few days ago we had an assembly about the expenses of our caps and gowns and stuff, and she was sitting a few rows behind me. Besides stop believing in the bs "bro code" or whatever it's called which says if your friend knows the girl, even if she rejected him like in this post, then you'd have to ask permission to be with Here's where it gets even more confusing: when we're out with friends, everyone thinks we're together. And look usually if a girl rejected me I'd tell her GOOD BYE but if you have a genuine excuse like the one and if you just told me exactly like you're saying on here than I'd understand and I'd give it another shot. You "ignoring" her is not hurting her feelings or being rude, because she would have contacted you if she had any true intent of remaining friends. She was getting hurt with all these and her parents were also looking for a groom. I texted her after like 2-3 days after our second date and said we do not fit each other and that was it. You hit her with a wet fish, and it sounds desperate. It hurt me a lot but I understood and since then I did not try to flirt or even talk to her about any of this. My mind finally accepted that she would simply never be into it, like I was Which frankly should come naturally. I told her I would give her time to get over it. Sometimes, dating felt overwhelming. He told me he doesn't want relationship and stuff. Tell her about a pretty flower you saw that made you think of her at the park today. We’re still good friends though and we just so while you're feeling led on and like she's playing with your heart i don't think she's actually got that level of malicious intent. But even though I’d gone through all the trouble of doing it, they still didn’t accept me. She’s happy, looks like a brand new person (she lost 50 pounds) and just seems like all her good qualities were multiplied by 10. Mainly clothes that fit. Understanding that even though he loved me, we were both unable to provide for each other Usually people like her always try to preserve their image in every way, and as you will easily understand, slap or hit a guy wouldn’t be the best thing for her image, since even if she does that in private, you would still have some kind of proof on yourself (but again, she could use false testimony. I also think it's really unfair to him for me to like him now after rejecting him. You should feel proud that you had enough confidence to share your true feelings, and that you got the answers you were looking for, even if you didn't end up getting what you wanted. So now she wants to show you that she's attractive. This is so true. It could even come off as attractive since you don’t need her rather it’s just that you would’ve liked to have been with her. If you really care about her, you should let her know. And it will never truly be off my chest. When I (f) ask out males I'm into and get rejected, I still feel good even though it sucks. More often than not, this sets you up for the huge possibility of being rejected or losing her interest entirely. Now he’s Embrace any awkwardness before or after you tell her. But should I still be polite to her even though looking in her eyes is excruciatingly painful? Give her a few compliments about her outfit or her nice laugh. I now want to go out with him but he’s dating another girl[21F] and refuses to stop seeing her for me. A few months later I caved and got with her. Less than 2 months later she starts dating LD and became clear to me she wasn’t necessarily avoiding relationships but just didn’t want me lol. LGBTQ+ are welcome :) We also have a Discord server. Late last night though, I got a message from her "hey how come you deleted me off Facebook?". even if it hurts. Any advice on how I can maneuver this situation. Flash forward to two weeks ago. The reasons that I want to tell her is to let her know how I feel and also to let her know that there is someone who like her for who she is and cares for her. Now. We'd like to take this time to remind users that: We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors. The more you submit to her the less interested she’s going to be in you 48 votes, 31 comments. I start to become cringy and writing long love letters, saying I'm changed and how I regret my actions, again she declines and tells me she's' happy and I should move on. You made that choice to not give her a chance at being a great romantic partner until after she moved on with someone who appreciates her efforts. We normally ask for the goahed if we're gonna shoot our shot at a girl that rejected our friend. She is the one that had to say hi to me. When i tried to hold her hands she pulled away hers, even though i was smooth. But I know that it would be wrong. Last wk her parents arranged a person to meet and at the same time we had a fight and we both stopped talking. Though you could be rejected, it can still be a fun or humorous experience. I've never seen anything even close to the same level of societal gaslighting as i have with how people treat You should always have a backup in case you don't have to feel like this. Of the 5, only two are real/respond, of the 2 good ones you get one date and you don’t like her that much lol. If you like someone, ask them out, ask them to do something with you. I know i will get rejected but I'm just thinking if I should just let her know. Update: Didn't develop well, instead of exploring the heroines and build up relationship the story seem too focus on flaunting "flower in each arm" scenario, it feel shallow. The first time, I rejected her because I suspected she might be a little weird/crazy, even though she was smokin hot. She stalks him online, and even stalks his family and relatives. again it shows mental stability if Gave her short answers to her IMs, didn't initiate talking with her, just all around ornery. 2. Dont worry, man. People like to put people on hold when other stuff falls thru. He even told her that he has a girlfriend, but she doesn't listen. Does she hate me now or still feel embarrassed? Hey dude all you can do is TRY if you don’t try you will never know and be left wondering remember you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take so I’d say go for it life is too short bro I’d rather get rejected knowing at least now I know wether this girl was into me or not just don’t expect a guarantee because there is never a 100% guarantee if she feels the same way about Even though I knew there was a high chance she would reject me, I wanted to confess to her anyway so that I could at least get an answer and I wouldn't have any regrets about not confessing. You accidentally got her to "qualify herself to you. Right now, kind of. I would have waited if she have said something like it's too soon. It didn’t work and now she’s back. She admitted in her OP that they are not having that much sex. ROLE REVERSAL There have been a couple times where I rejected women, but then later ended up seeing them. We went on a couple of dates, and she even let me put my arm around her during one of our movie dates ( I asked her "may I put my arm around you). So we Go out with her, ask her about what went wrong with the guy. Hopefully we’re compatible. Initially it’s physical attraction. She acts normally with everyone else and doesn't look upset or anything. So should I just Somewhere out there are girls who do not want to settle either. Date rejected me, I unfollowed her on Instagram, but she still follows me and views my stories actively. Like that song that goes you can't her out of head or mind. If you genuinely care about her, you would stay out of her way of finding happiness with someone This is an important comment. This was a guy who gave a lot of mixed signals though, even after he knew how I felt, so that distance was definitely necessary for me to Don't be disappointed if your crush doesn't share your feelings. sitting next to each other. Like there is no way that how I feel is natural. I even rejected a girl who asked me out in the meantime ( even though there were a lot of red flags with her) A relationship from the get-go just gives me too much pressure and I don't like it. And then other times it's like he's scared to come close to me. I had enough and deleted all her pictures, my 50 different kinds of notes of her and things I’d do for her, the journals I wrote on her, the places we’d once visit if she said yes. But the thing about mentioning it being about body type to her- she already knows. I was recently dating a girl. I simply wasnt interested anymore and couldnt even see her in a sexual light. Well, I can’t even go back to the classroom now. But, another couple weeks later, she got REALLY pissed at me for not giving her the I mean, even if you got into a relationship with him at this point, you would still need to be honest and come clean with him about why you rejected him and whatnot. It’s life I’m not going to hold a grudge because she rejected if she doesn’t like me that’s fine I’m just not for her even though she is perfect for me. You should leave her be and let her move on (considering she’s not single or is into someone else). But, on the other hand (and this is act 3 spoiler stuff but I'll cut any specific story stuff) You do form a tight friendship, you two have a fight (kinda) and afterwards, she says she needs to head back to But while I have these thoughts of her and I know that in my mind I definitely love her, I just can't bring myself to show it and can't even make myself to go talk with her and get together, even though in my head I want it. S (Sorry long post), sounds like you should also think about examining work life balance or seeking professional help if it is available to you. I basically avoided her best I could since I knew she didn't like me both in the dream and in real life (she's straight and I'm a gay girl). I got rejected 2 days ago too and I know its hard but its better when you know you tried because if not you will feel even worse thinking hwta uf she liked me too and is hell , I will say take your time and think about other stuff keep you feelings and mind buzy with yourself or even activities or things you like , like go to the gym improve She asked me out and I told her I had no interest. it looks like a difficult situation because we all know how teens can act if they are Even though it's only been a few months she's honestly one of the best and closest friends I think I've ever had. If it's too much, she may even have to cut off from you completely because it may feel like a betrayal of her relationship to continue being friends with someone that wants more than friendship. I would take another crack at her, but make her work to get you. Even though I prefaced this article with a story that encourages you to confess your feelings to her, there definitely is a time and place. She breezily told me it was all good and she must have misinterpreted. I tried Becoming His by Albany Walker but only made it 25%. Later he just needs to fall for her/accept her confession. in a way, she Some backstory: im gonna be hitting 22 in a couple of weeks. I think your best chance would be to tell him that you like him, and that you just did this bc you wanted him to notice. There are times when I feel like there is a possibility he might now reject me if I asked him out but I can't be sure if that's just how he is. The "may I put my arm around you?", The "I'll chase you". Or pretending to like me, then sending her friend to tell me to go away. I like the feeling of accomplishment in going way out of my comfort zone (I'm INTP) and getting an answer to something that's been plaguing me probably for weeks at that point. I’ve had feelings for friends before and even though I had the feelings I still loved them and wanted them in my life. That you've never connected with someone else like that before and you rejected her because of you, not her, and that if she'd like to ask you out again, that the answer would be one more representative of how you feel as opposed to what you're afraid of. She would not exercise even though her nutritionist said she needed to do so direly and I tried to gently encourage her to go to the gym with me. Texting her seems weird since we barely even had a text conversation going when I fell off. And it’ll torture you to see her with a boyfriend while you play third wheel. He’s already calling her baby and other pet names while he tells her that even though he slept with tons of other women he didn’t love them like he loved her. That's why I don't like the knee jerk "don't date people at work!" Since he asked me out, I've been talking to Ken more than I ever did and I can't seem to keep myself away from him lately. i still love her even when she wasn’t so good to me. I fell that hard to the point that it wasn’t even sexual. So, even though I texted and messaged her, she never replied. And now we've been together years and it seems like its gotten stronger and stronger, even though his body went somewhat back. I already can tell she’s really pretty by the way you were talking. I Was recently rejected by a girl I was into for a while and she still wants to be friends. It makes me sad, knowing I'm the reason why he acts like that. i mean maybe she would change them but i think she would only do it because she thinks if she does he might love her back and this wouldn't help anyone. I have backup so I don't have to think about anyone like that. I took 3 days, emailed her back and told her I didn't see her like that. It is worth asking questions subtly, and not jumping in headfirst. Nothing romantic; but I may have accidentally weirded her out so now I go out of my way to avoid her a bit. She has sent countless emails to his relatives living in other countries. She went to California for 3 months to stay with her uncle. I call her and offer to buy her tickets to London, she declines and says she's not interested in getting back and she was quite hurt after I rejected and blocked her. P. Then let her tell you about how awful he did her and pretend to console her. While I respect her decision, what bothers me is that she broke things off without giving us a chance to meet. If she seems receptive to these behaviors, she may be open to a closer relationship, but if she acts disinterested, she may not want you to ask her out. He rejected me. After a month I saw her with another guy and got really mad. But it was a huge dick move to keep up this one-sided intimate It's different for me and my friends though. Posted by u/hello_there669 - 6,681 votes and 225 comments For the past 1 year, I hv been asking her to leave because I wasn't in a good shape of mind. Try saying some things like, “I saw a gorgeous rose bush on my walk earlier today. Then at the end of the date, let her know you still have other people you’re seeing before you settle on her. Even Though I was Rejected by The Two Most Beautiful Girls in My Year, Somehow It seems like They Missed Me › Vol. Long story short she started dating & she found someone new & as for me I felt heartbroken but then again I rejected her when she asked me out. I told her how I felt, but before I could get a response from her, her friend barges into the hallway and interrupts us for an unrelated reason. On the heroine’s first night seeing Him after he rejected her years ago she sleeps in his bed and cooks him dinner. She even texts me all the time and we've done so many things together, even though we're not officially dating. So in your wired mind she was good enough to be friends with but since she's not a virgin she's not good enough to date. 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